Child Psychology

» redback - Warm n fuzzy

suite101 is having technical problems. I'm also typing with nothing happening! The internet access I have keeps kicking me off. I'm easily a marginal player here.

We may have different meanings to comfort zones...and that's OK. I speak Strine. I attempted to indicate how transient some of these zones are by exampling mine. some, maybe many people in my experience bemoan lost opportunities by any number of rationalisations.

Another example: A friend has committed welfare fraud and asked me to represent him on a matter. I couldn't believe he did it and he effectively denied it on a number of fronts to me. I hold honesty as a high ideal and I thought he genuinely did too. Without going into the details, he added betrayal of a friendship to what he did. I'm not in a comfort zone with him given unresolved issues over his disregard of me.

When we test ourselves as we should, in my opinion, we test the relevance of the comfort zones we set. But, as indicated above, many people stay with what's most familiar, way past its expiry date.

I'm out of here before I lose my post again. I'm curious you can't think of anything off the top of your head, you're happy to stay "snuggled into" be it a warm bed on a bitter winter night or a belief in a high ideal etc etc. But my "snuggle in" reference wasn't aimed at you.

-- posted by redback